ABOUT ME

Are you experiencing relationship/family/work worries, feeling frustrated/resentful/overwhelmed/withdrawn, have stress related physical pains, fatigue, cycle of negative thought patterns, disturbed sleep/eating and generally not enjoying life…

I understand there are times in life when talking to friends or family is not enough. Perhaps you are looking for a more specialist and focused support strategy for yourself, your family or your child/adolescent.

Let’s work together to find what works best for you, your family or your child/adolescent.

I believe the relationship between us is one of the most important aspects of counselling and I will work to earn your trust and respect.

Counselling is an opportunity to look at issues/difficulties/concerns in a different way. I will not give advice or try to ‘fix the problem’, instead I will listen and facilitate you to make sense of your problems, the unhelpful thoughts, beliefs and behaviours which are getting in the way of living the life you want.

I will work with you to help you to identify what is important to you and enable you to develop confidence and effective new skills to promote a positive change and outcome in your life or in your family life.

I have clinical experience within leading mental health charities Place2Be, The Mix and Kids Inspire.

SPECIALTIES

  • Relationship issues

  • Divorce/separation

  • Reconstituted families 

  • Anxiety disorders (incl. ‘tics’, OCD type behaviours, continuous nightmares/difficulty sleeping/staying in own bed and 'doom/gloom' type thoughts)

  • Continually sad/unhappy/low mood

  • Anger and aggression

  • Social issues/struggles 

  • Loss, bereavement and grief 

  • Trauma (incl. accidents leading to injury; serious illnesses; emotional neglect; emotional or physical or sexual abuse)

  • Impact of childhood and adolescent experiences on the adult 

  • Behavioural difficulties (incl. clingy/withdrawn/acting out/attention seeking)

  • Peer difficulties (incl. difficulty making friends)

  • Sibling conflict/rivalries 

  • Difficulty settling in/fitting in at school

  • Bullying/bullied

  • Refuses to go to school

  • At risk of exclusion/excluded 

  • Post adoption/adopted and foster care/placement/looked after children

 

EXPERIENCE

  • Adults, Families, Young People, Adolescents and Children 

  • Private and education settings

  • Individual (one to one), group and family counselling

  • Long term and short term counselling

  • Solution focused counselling

  • Telephone and video counselling 

EDUCATION

  • Post Graduate Diploma Counselling Children and Adolescents in Schools (Place2Be - accredited by University of East London and British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy)

  • CPCAB Level 3 Certificate in Counselling Skills for Working with Children ( Place2Be, accredited by British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy) 

  • CPCAB Level 3 Adult Counselling Skills (Bromley Adult Education College, accredited by British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy) 

  • CPCAB Level 2 Counselling Skills (Bromley Adult Education College, accredited by British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy) 

ETHICAL CONSIDERATIONS 

  • Registered member of British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP)

  • Enhanced DBS certificates for counselling adults, adolescents and children

  • Registered with the Information Commissioner's Office (ICO)

  • ICO registration reference: ZA530426

  • Data controllers and processors: Vida Boreham 

 

ABOUT COUNSELLING

I will work with you to help identify what is important to you and to determine the therapeutic support needed.

 

I will work to enable you to develop confidence and effective new skills to promote a positive change and outcome in your life or in your family life.

I use a range of therapeutic tools and strategies to tailor the counselling to your, or your family or your child/adolescent's individual needs. I will respect your individual values and goals. This way I can ensure we are addressing the concerns/difficulties which are interfering with everyday life but at a pace that is safe and suitable for you, your family or your child/adolescent.

I will provide support, consistency, appropriate boundaries, gentle and helpful challenging, as well as a new perspective, within a safe, confidential and accepting environment.

I will work with the emotional and cognitive aspects of your, or your family or your child/adolescent’s experience in the here and now. I am, however, mindful of the past experiences and your hopes for the future. 

 

We will work together to understand the patterns of thoughts and behaviour and what drives you, that way you will have the key to make changes that last.

Following your enquiry, I will make contact to arrange an initial session/consultation for us to meet in person and decide if we are comfortable working together. This session helps us to establish in more detail what your concerns and reasons for seeking counselling are, together with what you would like to gain from counselling. 

The Counselling Session

During the session I will provide a non-judgmental and facilitative environment to enable you or your family or child/adolescent to explore difficult thoughts, feelings and behavior either directly or through play/creativity, depending on the type of counselling. 

 

It is an opportunity to look at issues/difficulties through a different lens and to begin to understand your experiences and emotional reactions. It is a chance to learn new and more constructive coping mechanisms to better manage relationships and conflicts.

The sessions would be on a weekly basis, either open-ended or for a set number of sessions. The sessions will usually be on the same day and time each week.

Confidentiality

The session content/all personal information disclosed during a session will be confidential.

 

Child & Adolescent Counselling

 

The sessions with your child/adolescent are confidential, which means, I would not tell you the specifics of play or what was said. This is important to maintain your child/adolescent’s trust and feelings of safety with me. I will however, at review stage, share the themes which have come up and areas I feel the child/adolescent might need and/or want support with.

Please note  I will share anonymized information with my supervisor for the benefit of my work with you or your family or your child/adolescent.

Limits to Confidentiality 

Please note confidentiality is limited due to my legal and ethical duties under child protection and safeguarding regulations, that is, if I am concerned that a child/adolescent is being harmed, hurting others or themselves.

 

Additionally, further limits to confidentiality are where I have to comply with a court order, or if there is information or knowledge regarding fraud, drug trafficking or acts of terrorism. I will also contact the relevant and appropriate authorities, including your GP and/or police,  if you reveal you are at serious risk of causing harm to yourself or others.

 

In such circumstances I will usually discuss this with you and a mutually agreeable way forward will be sought.

Please Note

During any therapeutic intervention, initially you may feel worse or your child/adolescent's behaviour may appear to get worse. This is a natural reaction to beginning to process thoughts and feelings which may have been kept at a distance for a long time. Please tell me about this and your concerns, as these feelings need to be worked through in our sessions.

 

Additionally, should any other concerns arise after consultation then please tell me.

 

Please also feel free to ask me any questions at consultation or at review stage, but any urgent concerns let me know as soon as practicable.

Outcomes of Counselling

  • ​Reduction in anxiety

  • Improved mood

  • Ability to appropriately elicit support and communicate needs

  • Value and respect own thoughts and feelings, and those of others

  • Ability to self-calm and regulate your emotions and emotional responses. Thus be able to respond rather than react. 

  • Develop resilience

  • Increased self-acceptance and self-worth

  • Feel better, more at ease and enjoy life

  • Development of self-awareness

  • Improved relationships

  • Achieve your full individual potential

 

TYPES OF COUNSELLING

CHILDREN, ADOLESCENTS AND YOUNG PEOPLE 

I am specifically trained to work with children, adolescents and young adults.

Child and adolescent counselling involves talking and play therapy using creativity, a wide range of strategies and materials, to aid the child/adolescent to explore their thoughts, feelings and difficulties and to learn to express them appropriately.

Sometimes it is easier to talk to a stranger rather than to parents, relatives, teachers or friends.

 

Play and creativity is a child/adolescent’s natural form of expression, and it is used as a means for understanding and communicating with them about feelings, thoughts and behaviours.

 

Counselling gives them tools to begin to understand their experiences, emotional responses and to adopt healthier and more socially helpful ways of communicating needs, managing relationships and conflicts. Counselling helps them to learn how to help themselves.

Counselling would be a 50 minute session once every week at the same time and on the same day. This enables consistency and predictability which helps to build trust and feeling safe, thereby assisting the therapeutic work.

The session is child/adolescent led but I will guide and navigate the work, particularly in solution focused counselling.

​I understand you would like your child/adolescent to get to the crux of problem/concern and may want them to tell me certain things in sessions. Please try not to, as the session is their time and space to express themselves at their own pace, but also because the issue usually is explored indirectly. 

Your Help

  • The parent/family is instrumental in supporting your child/adolescent through the process. They may need reassurance about attending sessions regularly, especially if they are processing/working through something difficult/challenging/painful.

  • It is helpful not to ask your child what they said or did, as this may put pressure on them to tell you something they may have difficulty understanding themselves.

  • Please don’t ask your child to ‘be good’ or check they have been. Therapy is about your child feeling free and able to express ‘bad’ feelings in an uncensored way.

  • play therapy can sometimes be messy, so to minimise their and your anxiety, the child should wear clothes they do not mind getting messy. ​

FAMILY COUNSELLING

Family counselling involves the child/adolescent as well as the parents or carers and any sibling(s) we think beneficial to join in.

Family work uses creative approach and talking therapy as a foundation and is tailored to the needs of the family to work on the goal(s) set in initial consultation. The aim is to try to sort out the issues together. 

 

Family counselling can help you improve troubled relationships or where there is conflict between parents and children or between siblings.

 

I will facilitate your family to understand each other better, to communicate better, and to begin to do things differently, so to better support one another, thus beginning to resolve or accept your differences and grow stronger as a unit. 

 

Family counselling can help the whole family to learn to adopt healthier and more appropriate coping strategies to manage difficult changes in family life, or the impact of substance abuse or a mental illness on the entire family or if your family  seems stuck in repeating patterns of hurtful or harmful behaviour, perhaps "inherited" from previous generations.

PARENT WORK

Parent work will enable the parents:

 

  • To adopt a joint parenting style

  • Communicate better and more helpfully with each other and your children/adolescents 

  • To address issues together and improve troubled relationships with each other and your children/adolescents 

  • To address parenting difficulties  where your child/adolescent is experiencing challenging emotions or behaviour.

 

I will work with you so together we can better understand the behaviour/difficulties, agree on useful and appropriate techniques to use with your child/adolescent, so you can better support them through it, thus making home life easier for everyone.

ADULT COUNSELLING

Counselling is a space to unburden yourself, to understand yourself better and to re-connect with your internal resources so you can live a fulfilling and meaningful life, where you experience self-acceptance and self-worth.

Counselling is essential where the emotional distress feels overwhelming and unmanageable. I will share the burden with you and help you to manage these feelings and we will reflect upon them together.

 

I have a special interest in working with formative/early life relationships where the may have been disruption in parental/familial bonds. Whilst working with your present-day concerns, we can also be mindful of the inner child/adolescent and redress any earlier unmet needs or unresolved difficulties.

 

The way we engage with people in our life is a reflection of learned patterns of relating and behaving from our earlier relational experiences. These learned ways of being with and relating to others may no longer be useful or helpful.

 

If you find it difficult to trust, feel insecure in yourself or with others, are unhappy in your martial or family relationships, or find it difficult to form meaningful relationships or friendships, let's explore this together and learn new ways of being and relating with others.

 

SCHOOL-BASED COUNSELLING 

I have extensive experience of being a school-based counsellor within schools in South-East London and Essex.

 

As a result I am able to:

  • Foster good working relationships with Head Teachers, SENCo, Safeguarding leads and school staff to enable the therapeutic work

  • Work with school and family to understand the concerns about the child/adolescent and determine the therapeutic support needed

  • I value and play an important role in safeguarding

  • Work within the school's timetabling constraints

I will work to earn the trust and respect of the staff, by encouraging an open-door policy/informal meetings and if necessary leading training sessions on potential trouble signs for pupils.

School-based counselling offers a more accessible emotional support service to pupils and staff, it helps to reduce the stigma of emotional ill health, fosters emotional resilience and promotes healthy emotional development.

It improves attendance rates as well as learning/academic engagement, which benefits the pupil, school, their families and the community. 

 

The counselling service will require a room which is accessible to all pupils and offers privacy.

I will supply the play/art/creative materials.

I work on a self-employed basis. 

If you are looking for a school-based counselling service or would like to further support your pupils emotional health please contact me on vidaboreham@yahoo.com or 07944024448.

 

COUNSELLING LOCATIONS

A Place For All-  Shortlands, Bromley 

Child, adolescent and parent/family counselling takes place at my home-based counselling room and office in Shortlands, Bromley.

 

The counseling room is a quiet and safe space, which is well equipped to offer all age groups lots to do, so to encourage play, creativity and enable feeling, thinking and talking.

ADULT COUNSELLING

Adam House- Covent Garden

 

I also offer counselling sessions at Adam House in Covent Garden, close to and walking distance from Charing Cross, Embankment and Covent Garden underground stations. 

 

OTHER SUPPORT

SAMARITANS 

Call free day or night on 116 123

jo@samaritans.org

NSPCC

0808 800 5000

 

Bromley Y - Community Wellbeing

A local charity offering free therapeutic support to families and young people up to the age of 18 years.

 

020 3770 8848

BROMH.bromleyy@nhs.net

https://www.bromleywellbeingcyp.org/how-to-refer/

 

 

The Mix

Provides free, confidential support through phone, web, social and counselling for under 25s. It connects young people to experts and their peers to talk about everything from homelessness to finding a job, from money to mental health, from break-ups to drugs.

 

0808 808 4994 freephone

help@themix.org.uk

www.themix.org.uk

ChildLine

Helpline for children and young people in danger or distress, up to the age of 18 years. 

0800 1111 freephone

reception@childline.org.uk

www.childline.org.uk

 

WHAT'S NEXT

Adult, Young Adult & Family Counselling

 
Following your enquiry, I will make contact to arrange an initial session/consultation for us to meet in person and decide if we are comfortable working together. 
 
This session helps us to establish in more detail what your concerns and reasons for seeking counselling are, together with what you would like to gain from counselling. 
 

Child/Adolescent Counselling (adolescents under 18 years old)

 

Initially, I like to meet the parent or carer for a consultation to discuss the needs/difficulties of your child/adolescent and your concerns and wishes.  This is also a chance for you to meet me, see my counseling room and to understand a little more about how I work.

 

We will carry out an assessment to formulate a plan of support and discuss consent as well as a suitable weekly time slot for your child/adolescent to come for sessions.  

I look forward to hearing from you and together working out a suitable plan of support.

FEES

Counselling fees from Bromley:

  • £35.00- 50-minute initial consultation (child/adolescent up to 18 years old)

  • £40.00- 50-minute initial session/consultation (adult/young adult)

  • £35.00- 50-minute individual child/adolescent session

  • £50.00- 50-minute parent/family work

  • £50.00- 50-minute adult work and young adult (18 years+)

  • The parental meeting to conduct the review (50-minute) every 6 weeks for the duration of the sessions, charged at £35.00

  • Any further parental consultation/meeting will be charged at £35.00 per 50-minute

  • Concession and student rate is available at £35.00 and upon discussion

Please note I have a 24 hour cancellation and change of appointment policy.  Cancellations made within less than 24 hours will incur full session fee.

 

Adult/Young Adult counselling fees from Covent Gardent:

  • £40.00- 50-minute initial session/consultation

  • £60.00- 50-minute session

  • Concession and student rate is available at £45.00 and upon discussion

​Please note I have a 48 hour cancellation and change of appointment policy.  Cancellations made within less than 48 hours will incur full session fee.

 

CONTACT

Mrs Vida Boreham

5 Martins Road

Bromley

BR2 0EE

07944 024 448